How to prepare for Monday on Friday

11 Ways to Beat the Monday Blues

If the start of your workweek triggers overwhelming feelings of anxiety, sadness, or stress, you might have a case of the Mondays.

With help from Alexander Kjerulf, an international author and speaker on happiness at work, Rita Friedman, a Philadelphia-based career coach, Ryan Kahn, a career coach, founder of The Hired Group, star of MTV’s Hired, and author of Hired! The Guide for the Recent Grad, Sara Sutton Fell, CEO and founder of FlexJobs, and  Deborah Shane, a career author, featured writer, speaker, and media and marketing consultant, I've compiled a list of 11 things you can do to beat the dreaded 'Monday Blues.'

1. Identify the problem.

“The first thing to do is to ask yourself what’s wrong,” Kjerulf says. If you have the Monday Blues most weeks, then this is not something you should laugh off or just live with. It’s a significant sign that you are unhappy at work and you need to fix it or move on and find another job. Sutton Fell suggests making a list of the things that are bringing you down in your job.

“Maybe it’s a negative co-worker or a meeting with your boss first thing on Monday morning, or maybe it’s that you don’t feel challenged–or maybe it’s all of the above,” she says. “In either case, clarifying what is bothering you can help you try to be active in finding solutions. It’s a way of empowering you to take charge and try to improve the situation.” 

 

Kjerulf says if you only suffer the occasional bout of mild Monday Blues, then you can do some things to successfully cheer yourself and others up on an otherwise dreary Monday.   

 

2. Prepare for Monday on Friday.

 

“Mondays can be extra stressful from work that has potentially piled up from the previous week and, for many, can be challenging to jump right back in,” Kahn says.
To help combat that Monday morning anxiety, be sure to leave yourself as few dreadful tasks as possible on Friday afternoon, Friedman says. “By taking care of the things you least want to handle at the end of one work week, you’re making the start of the next that much better.”
If you do have any unpleasant tasks awaiting your attention Monday morning, get them done as early as possible so that you don’t spend the rest of the day procrastinating or “feeling as if there’s a black cloud hanging over your head,” she says. “Make that uncomfortable phone call, resolve that outstanding issue, or clean up that mess that’s waiting for you. You’ll feel a lot better once it’s over.” 

 
You’ll also want to make sure your calendar is up to date and synched, and you have a good view of and handle on your upcoming work week–especially Monday, Shane says. “What do you need to prepare for and get organized with? Get it done Friday, or by Sunday, if possible.” 

3. Make a list of the things you're excited about.

“We often look at the week ahead of us and think of all the tough stuff we have to do and the difficult tasks ahead of us,” Kjerulf says. “Turn that around. Sunday evening, make a list of three things you look forward to at work that week. This might put you in a more positive mood. If you can’t think of three things you look forward to, that might be an indication that you need to make some changes.” 

4. Unplug over the weekend.

If possible, try to avoid checking work e-mail or voicemail over the weekend, especially if you’re not going to respond until Monday anyway, Friedman says. “It can be tempting to know what’s waiting for you, but drawing clearly defined boundaries between work and personal time can help keep things in check.  When you leave the office on Friday, leave your office problems there and focus on enjoying your time off. Sometimes going back to work on Monday feels especially frustrating because you let it creep into your off-time, and so it never even feels like you had a weekend at all.” 

5. Get enough sleep and wake up early.

Go to bed a little early on Sunday night and be sure to get enough sleep so that you wake up feeling well-rested, Friedman says.  “If you’re only running on a couple of hours of sleep, it’s unlikely that you’re going to feel good about going anywhere when the alarm goes off Monday morning.”
Although it might seem counter-intuitive, waking up an extra 15 to 30 minutes early on Monday morning can actually make going back to the office easier.  “Having a little more ‘me time’ instead of feeling like you’re trapped in a time crunch can make that transition a little easier,” she says. “Taking the time to enjoy a healthy breakfast, do some exercises, or take the dog for a walk can help you feel more centered for the rest of the day, and can help you remember that you’re not a robot who just sleeps and works.” 

6. Dress for success.

“Dress up, perk up and show up ready to be positive and help others be positive,” Shane says. “Be the light and energy that makes others have a better day. Show and share your spirit, charisma and vibe and make yourself magnetic.”
Kahn agrees. He suggests you use Monday as the day to wear your favorite new outfit. This can help build your confidence around the office and might get you a few complements from co-workers, he says.
Sutton Fell says when you look good, you feel good. ”Feeling good about yourself is half of the battle on Monday mornings, because rather than being deflated by work you want to face it with confidence." 

7. Be positive.

Start the week out with an “attitude of gratitude,” Kahn says. “Take time to recognize and appreciate the things that you enjoy about work.”
This starts before you even get to work. To pump yourself up on your way in to work, try listening to your favorite songs, Friedman says.  “Think about the type of playlist you would create for a workout, and incorporate that same upbeat, high-energy music into your morning preparation or commute.”
When you get to the office, do your best not to be a complainer–and keep your Monday morning grumpiness to yourself, Friedman adds. “In the same vein, don’t listen to other people’s Monday gripes. Creating or contributing to a culture of complaining is no way to improve your attitude.”
Shane says you must make a decision to turn negative reluctance and dread into a “positive, productive and excited welcome to Monday energy.” Start with Friday and make sure your desk is organized, and your work to-do list is ready to go for the following week. “Take Sunday to rest, review and reward, but plan for and get ready to leap into Monday.”
If you’re able to be a source of positivity in the workplace, not only will you make your day more enjoyable, but you’ll also make the work environment better for those around you, Kahn concludes.

8. Make someone else happy.

Make a vow to do something nice for someone else as soon as you get to work on Monday, Sutton Fell suggests. “Doing nice things for other people definitely can lift the spirits, and in this case, it could actually help shift the overall mood in your office,” she says. “Paying it forward can yield great results all around.”
Kjerulf agrees. He says we know from research in positive psychology that one of the best ways to cheer yourself up is to make someone else happy. “You might compliment a co-worker, do something nice for a customer, help out a stranger on the street or find some other way to make someone else’s day a little better.” 

9. Keep your Monday schedule light.

Knowing that Mondays are traditionally busy days at the office, a good strategy is keep you Monday schedule as clear as possible, Kahn says. “When you’re planning meetings ahead, try to schedule them for Tuesdays and Wednesdays. This will help you to come into Monday with more ease from the weekend.”
Instead of tackling the biggest and most complicated tasks early on Monday, take some time for easier, more routine stuff, Kjerulf says. “This might get you up and running and give you the energy for the hairier tasks.”
But beware: If you have too much free time—you’ll sit around “feeling blue,” Shane says. 

10. Have fun at work.

Take it upon yourself to do things that you enjoy in the office on Monday, Kahn says. “Maybe bring donuts for your colleagues or take a quick break to catch up with friend in the office. Sharing stories about the weekend with co-workers can be fun and also is a great way to strengthen your interoffice network.”
Sutton Fell says to schedule a weekly Monday coffee break or lunch with a friend.  “Create an event that you will look forward to on Mondays as a way to break up the day with some known positivity.  At the very least, it gives you a chance to take a deep breath, talk with a friend, and regroup for the rest of the day.” 

11. Have a post-work plan.

Your day shouldn’t just be about trudging through Monday to get it over with, but about looking forward to something. “By making Monday a special day where you get to go out with friends, make your favorite dinner, or eat a bowl of popcorn and catch up on a TV show you recorded, the day doesn’t have to be all about getting up to go into the office,” Friedman says. 

Source

Forget Work Life Balance - Seven Paradigm Shifts for The New 24/7 Normal

Is the work life juggle driving you insane?  The reality of life is that we have a “new normal”. Five trends create this new normal:

• Technology enables us to be always connected
• There are fewer people needing to do more work
• Globalization and speed of information flow demands 24/7 responsiveness
• The speed of change is more than we can keep up with
• The need to be “on” as new competitors emerge from unlikely places

I am a big fan of Albert Einstein. One of my favorite quotes is “Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”  If the way we’re working doesn’t work, we need to shift our paradigms about work. Otherwise, we risk burning ourselves out. Organizations risk employees who are stressed out, run out of creative fuel, and disengage.

So, how do we find a way to not just survive, but thrive in this new normal?  These trends demand an evolution in how we manage ourselves, and how organizations create cultures, rewards, and structures to help this evolution.

Seven Paradigm Shifts to Work in The New Normal

1) Move from work life balance to work life energy – The boundaries between work and life are blurred.  We are most discontent with work life balance when we are burned out and not refueling ourselves.  Stop trying to balance and start thinking about ways we can be fully energized and creative for all of our life. In writing this article, I was trying to find how Albert Einstein, Thomas Edison, Martin Luther King, Richard Branson, Oprah Winfrey and other inventors, change agents, and visionaries dealt with their frustrations about work life balance. I didn’t find much on the topic.  These individuals have lived lives of passion and contribution. What does that look like for you?

2) Move from rigid to personalized - Work life energy is personal.  We need to identify what personally energizes us in work and life and move toward that. Rigid role definitions and structures of work need to become more fluid to accommodate what brings greater flexibility, flow and energy to people – because energized people are most creative and best serve our customers.   What helps one person feel “in balance” is very different than that for another person. It also varies according to life stage.  In my 20’s I used to joke with my colleagues at P&G that I had no issues with work life balance – because I had no life. And I was okay with that.

3) Move from balance on the outside to balance on the inside - Many of us are tempted to believe “If I just had a less demanding job I’d have more balance”.  There is a Zen saying: “Wherever you go, there you are.” Our level of stress has more to do with our response to events than the event or job itself.  A significant part of work life balance is managing the mindsets we have – what stresses us out and how we manage that stress.  We need to evolve our skill sets and strengthen our prioritization muscles. What mindsets keep you stressed out?

4) Move from “work harder” to “work with passion”- Most of us are already working pretty hard and it can deplete us. However, there is a type of work we each do that we can do for hours that doesn’t deplete us. It energizes us. It puts us in flow. We are our most creative and resourceful when we are in flow. We need to find this work and spend more of our time doing it. Organizations need to help people discover this work and align their career paths around it.

5) Move from managing time to managing attention - We can be slaves of the clock – running from one meeting to the other, multi-tasking at work and at home. Multi-tasking is a myth. Our brain just moves from one task to another really fast. It creates additional stress and makes us less productive. We are not present to where we are. Albert Einstein said: “Any man who can drive safely while kissing a pretty girl is simply not giving the kiss the attention it deserves.” To have more work life energy, manage your attention. Be present.

6) Move from “work more hours” to “rest more hours”- Research shows that when we allow ourselves to relax, to have fun, it allows our creativity to flow through.  Our friend, Albert Einstein said: “We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them”. Get some rest. Pause. Organization cultures need to allow for fun and rest as part of a productive workforce.

7) Move from balance being an end-state to balance being a practice – We often go through the search for work life balance as if it’s a “Where’s Waldo” exercise.  Work life balance is not a destination. It’s how we navigate the journey.  We walk in balance by having a set of tools and principles we practice on an on-going basis. Do you know the most effective tools for you? Here are some practices for work life sanity.

Source